It is very important to know what you want out of a relationship and to make sure your needs get satisfied, but there’s a thin difference between knowing your self-worth and being overly demanding. You might need to watch out that signal that indicates that you expect too much from your relationship if you are feeling constantly disappointed in your relationship. Here are 11 signals that prove your expectations are too high.
1. You can’t deal with your partner spending time with friends: if you walk with the thought that you were enough for your partner and they wouldn’t want to spend time with friends, your expectations are too unrealistic. No single person can fulfill another person’s every need. Each relation with your parents, partner, siblings, co-workers, and friends serves a different purpose.
2. You and your partner never feel good enough with each other: When one or both partners feel like they’re ‘never good enough’ or constantly feel inadequate, it’s a sign that your expectations are not aligned with reality. The partners will not be able to feel free to each other.
3. Everyone says you’re too picky: If people around you are pointing out that you’re too picky all the time, then the truth is that he or she might be right. They wouldn’t say this without any reason. On the other hand, you might think that other people are way too loose regarding their standards. There is nothing wrong with dating even if you aren’t actually into all the people. People who point out that you’re too picky are noticing that there are more people out there that they think you might enjoy then you currently are.
4. You won’t date a guy with a certain job: It’s totally acceptable why you might not want to date a certain type of men too far outside of your comfort zone, but you can’t necessarily determine that by their job title alone. Maybe he is working as an employee but he’s also struggling to be an actor or he’s a cashier by day and work at a coffee house at night. Even if he is exactly what he says he is that doesn’t mean that he won’t have every quality that you’re looking for in a real relationship. Would you really reject the nicest guy in the world just because his current job position is different from what you expected? Probably not!
5. You don’t like it when guys like you: It’s weird when guys are too clingy, but if you don’t like it when people express interest or text you too fast, then you might be too picky. When a guy likes you, it’s honestly supposed to be a good thing, he surely can’t read your mind on how long he’s supposed to wait between conversations. You definitely won’t like everyone that likes you but to have something real there will be mutual likes. If you’re not available for that person may be you’re just not ready for any type of relationship at that time.
6. You compare everyone with your ex: It’s almost impossible not to compare new people to our exes, but if you’re holding your former flame up on a pedestal and measuring everyone up against him, then you might be too picky. The ex probably wasn’t as a great as you think he was since you’re no longer together, but for some reason, he feels like a safe measurement tool in your mind. You had him and now everyone has to be even better than him in some way to get your attention. If you’ve already decided that your ex is the greatest person on earth then it doesn’t leave you much room to get to know more people.
7. You have a specific “Type”: It’s okay to have a type and everyone has their choices. If you never stray far away from that and everyone that you date looks the same, then the truth is you might be a too picky. When people date similar kind of people over and over again, that means that you might be scared of being with someone who doesn’t look like all of your exes.
8. Little things freak you out: Are you panicked by the oddly shaped body? Terrified by a bad joke? Yes, those things can be pretty horrific. If a guy is otherwise amazing but you can’t get over the toe thing, it might be a signal that your standards are just too high. If you’re literally seeking head to toe perfection, you’re just not going to find it. Keep in mind what really matters and don’t get distracted by the small things.
9. You imagine the date will suck before you even go: if you constantly think that the date will not go well, it might not. No doubt our minds are pretty strong and powerful and if you just know that someone isn’t for you before you’ve spent any time with them then you could be right. But what if you didn’t know that and actually decided to spend some time getting to know them before you made a decision either way? You might be using your imagination power too far. People who are open to dating normal humans totally are aware that things could go in any direction but aren’t concerned about it.
10. You might think too much what people around you: You might be too picky if you constantly dating in order to make people around you happy. That could be your family or close friends. They think they know what’s best for you and they might have some excellent ideas but the only person who really knows what’s best for you is going to be only you. Obviously, your parents and close friends are going to have high standards and expectations when it comes to your dating life because they want you to have the best. But they also might have some outdated or irrelevant ideas about what that means. It can actually be really limiting to live according to the ideas of other people since so much of that doesn’t actually take into account who you are or what you think about who you are.
11. You idolize celebrity in your mind: Everyone has their ideal celebrity in mind. Its one thing to take fashion inspiration from a celebrity and it’s another to assume that you should be dating them or comparing your dating life to that of celebrity. Celebrities are surely real people but the Hollywood world is definitely not always authentic. Thinking that any of that is perfect or even seeing it as an ideal is not good ideas for you or for your love life.
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