Since the technology’s development, it seems like there is so much more tragedies happening every day than before. Is it true or are we just better informed? Do we live in the somehow more dangerous world than people before us? I don’t think so. It was happening all the time.
Different tragedies, like war, natural disasters, illnesses, loss of the loved ones etc. It is horrible to even watch such news on the TV or to see them on the web, hear them happening from your neighbor or someone you know. But, sometimes, a day comes when we face such tragedies by ourselves, together with our loved ones. In a moment, a life we know stops, and it never seems to be the same again. We provided you some of the best strategies which will help you not to forget to take care of yourself and your loved ones in the hardest moments!
First of all, never try to compare the griefs. While talking to someone, you may hear their stories, which may be similar, but not the same. Everyone experiences the different situation and also every person understands it and cops with it in its own way. When the tragedy happens, there is no bigger or smaller tragedy for that particular person. Okay, logically it can be, but while people are in grief never try to understand it that way.
If you are experiencing a high level of sadness, don’t compare your situation to others. This is your journey, you are the only one who can go through this. Remember yourself trying to find out more about the tragedy on the web? Whatever the tragedy you experienced was, try to avoid such behavior. It will just make you more anxious and you would find yourself in such a vicious circle from which you wouldn’t know how to get out. Rather try to make some daily plans. Those could be-don’t forget to eat well (it will help you to feel a little bit better), try to have a regular sleep of at least 7 hours. It is well known, by the psychologists, that people who experience such tragedies don’t sleep enough or they sleep too much.
Try to focus yourself on such daily tasks which will keep you on the track with the reality. Always ask the other’s how they want to be supported. Know that people experience grief differently. While someone can lay down all day in bed desperately crying, someone else could be so angry and aggressive. Some people prefer to work ‘0-24’ to forget about what happened. Respect other’s ways of coping with grief and try to understand how to help them. There are some people who don’t want to talk about it at all and let them be silent. All in all, every person will talk about it sooner or later and that will help them a lot.
Don’t pressure yourself to be positive. If you are felling down, that is totally normal. Don’t pressure yourself to meet your friends at the local pub if you don’t feel like it. Learn to say no. In such a situation, you need to take care of yourself. Your loved ones will understand you, don’t worry. Never make huge decisions while you’re in a grief. Suddenly, you want all in your life to change because you don’t feel well, and we can understand that. But, moving somewhere far away or buying a new house won’t help your situation. Wait for a while with such serious life decisions. It may happen that you don’t know how to approach your loved ones.
Anyways, one thing that is always right to say whenever you feel speechless is:”I am sorry.” You don’t even need to ask if they need some help because you will see that from their reactions. Some people want it, the others don’t. Accept what cannot be changed. This is the cold hard truth. Life goes on and deep inside you know it. You cannot change anything anymore, no matter how hard you try. You cannot go back to the past and make the things different.
Yes, life is not fair. Try to find something to believe in. Give yourself time, focus on the moment. If all else fails, search for some professional help. It is not seldom that people who experience such tragedies later suffer from the PTSD. If you find yourself with some flashes in front of your eyes, which reminds you of the tragedy, and if they don’t disappear for a month, call your therapist. Also, if you experience a very changed eating habits which last for a while and if you are having heavy nightmares or sleepless nights, don’t hesitate to search for a professional’s advice.
Can life after the tragedy be ever the same one we lived before?
Do we need to reassess our philosophical and religious beliefs after such events?
Will it make us stronger or weaker?
Could we mature faster in such a situation?