Congratulations! Nine months down the line you should be expecting your first child. What next? Pass the news to the dad and start focusing on the upbringing of the newest family member.
But is that what was planned for? Maybe, maybe not. If you are a young couple, reading this should boost your knowledge on pregnancy, from deciding to conceive to the first days of your child.
Choosing to get pregnant
It is thrilling just to think of starting a family with your husband, wife, or partner. However, when you get pregnant, it should be after having deep thought into the matter. Bearing children could reorient a lot of things.
First, the relationship is changed, careers can be affected and consume much of your time. Be open to each other. Talk about what you feel is convenient at the time; the timing of the pregnancy. Talk to your spouse in-depth and agree that you are ready for pregnancy.
If you need to get pregnant, visit a doctor for the preconception consultation. Three months before the pregnancy, the preconception period is when a lot of adjustments should be made to increase the chances of pregnancy, avoid its associated risks, and also recover speedily after birth.
See your doctor
Before getting pregnant, you should visit your doctor to learn about preconception health. Information relating to your health history and any medical conditions that can affect the pregnancy should be known. He or she can accurately deduce from your family history any conditions that the child can inherit, required vaccinations and health promotion.
Folic acid, diet and lifestyle habits
If you and your spouse desire to have a baby start taking folic acid as it betters the overall health of the developing fetus. Pertaining to the diet, look out for what you eat and always opt for healthier food. Healthy diet assures you maintain the average weight required for a successful pregnancy. Avoid drinking and smoking as they can induce a miscarriage and make the child prone to birth defects.
It is important to know that you easily get pregnant within a day, or two, right after ovulation. An egg can survive up to 24 hours after its release, within which the conditions are optimum for it to be fertilized by sperm.
The lifespan of sperm after ejaculation is approximately 6-7 days, and having regular sex means that sperm will be present in the fallopian tubes to meet and fertilize the egg when it is released. It is a hard task to know the exact dates of ovulation unless you participate in neutral family planning or family awareness.
However, know that ovulation occurs 2 weeks before the initial day of the next period, and about 12-14 days after this, she should have her next period.
Coping with unplanned pregnancy
The feeling of fear or disbelief will dominate. The mom will bear most of the burden since it is expected she had everything hacked into place. Yet in all the confusion, both of you need help to successfully see through the marriage as well as the pregnancy. Here are some ways on how to deal with an unplanned pregnancy.
Have ample time to adjust to the idea that you really are pregnant. It can be a lot to take in at one time but trust your instincts that you will definitely fall madly in love with the child once it is in your arms.
Don’t beat yourselves about the pregnancy. Rather, see this as a positive since you see your child grow, and the joy you both should have with a fulfilled family. Have the support of each other. Your partner is there for you. Support is everything and if possible you can consult your parents. Have a well-organized talk to come up with a strategy of upbringing.
First days of the baby
Since this is your first child, you should feel excited yet naïve concerning its upbringing. The first procedures- from breastfeeding to exiting the hospital will be venturesome for the parent and the baby.
Now that you are a parent, develop a feeding and sleeping sequence, and make diaper changing your priorities. Accept the infant into the family while not declining in love and support.
What steps have you put in place to ensure a smooth transition into parenthood?